Relationships are no easy stuff. Even the best ones often get broken by the ego’s of one (or both) or the partners involved.
For a couple to work well you need to have, first of all, a common/shared vision or plan. We like a quote (that we have used already before) from Antoine de Saint-Exupery: “Love does not consist of gazing at each other but in looking out together in the same direction”.
We think it’s very true: passion can have its ups and downs but what really can hold you and your partner together and make your bonds grow stronger is a sense of companionship, of tackling issues together, of solving life’s riddles and going on adventures together.
We see all too often, couples breaking apart and giving up on each other for petty things.
Many people are just very scared and broken inside and they end up trapped in their own ego games, they start blaming each other, they make the problems bigger (in their head) than they really are, and/or simply cannot or don’t want to continue investing in their relationships; they don’t want to work on themselves.
A love relationship is a place where – to an extent – you can let your defenses down and open yourself to deeply buried feelings. At the same time, this doesn’t mean you have to dump all of your mental crap onto your partner and blaming him or her for your un-dealt-with-demons! Growing strong together might involve rationalizing your (and your partner’s) fears and issues so that they can be understood, but it also entails actually working on yourself and find security and strength in your abilities and in who you are, getting past those fears. Your partner is a person like you, he or she is still growing, he or she – like everyone – has unresolved issues. Don’t place them on a pedestal only to cry and feel betrayed when the actual person doesn’t live up to the expectations you had. Have compassion for those moments.
Focus on the good parts. He or she – with all their limitations – certainly also do something right, I am sure!
Remember that you should be on the same side, not opposing each other. Love brings us closer – separation is the ego’s business.
If you are without a partner and keep feeling jealous of those who do, if you think that you are unfortunate because your relationships keep ending badly, ask yourself: was it really all their fault? What would you do differently, next time Love knocks, to make it stay?
If a partner isn’t completely resolved – but he or she is actually working on it – don’t dump him or her because you are in a hurry to feel relief from temporary stress, don’t run away. That, too, shall pass and it will be replaced by Love, again – if you both believe in you and if you put in your efforts.
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